where will this wave take me? why am i sad?
i've been wanting to blog again for awhile now...i've been increasingly productive outside of regular blogging and getting better at experiencing life instead of capturing it (or doing a little of both) so i wanted to ride the wave while it was working but i miss writing! i still analyze life and think about what i would write about and write in my head and write for the future. sometimes i don't think about anything at all and get caught up in the routines of the day...but at least these routines are often getting completed instead of the depressive rut where i couldn't imagine doing the most basic "activities of daily living" as some old psychological test called them...i haven't felt truly depressed for awhile...but there is a dull, quiet, irritability that often fogs my mind so i move more slowly than i'd like and without drive, passion, emotion...until i snap and get irrationally angry or frustrated...
i pause this thought for a moment to engage with story who is showing me some items in the "insect lore" catalog...lady bugs and such...
i hate being self-absorbed. i had many stories i've been lucky to be a part of...sea was chosen as "star student" which is supposed to be each week one of her classmates is randomly chosen to be showcased and help the teacher, etc. though i secretly idealize the teacher chooses some of the less popular or troubled children early on so they feel special...so here are the photos "all about sea"...i put these here, on my self-absorbed blog to remind myself of the important parts of my life that i've been lucky enough to experience and share and be a part of shaping...sea shapes me in so many ways, too! this first photo shows she wants to be a teacher when she grows up...i remember i wanted to teach 1st grade when i was a 1st grader, 2nd the next year, etc. until i was in college and then i did end up becoming a college instructor :)
anyway, i had many ideas in my head to write about...
--two talented friends who have allowed me to read their books (i wanted to write about their books and about them and about writing itself and the prospect of writing my own book one day)
--sea
is excelling at piano and i wanted to talk about that process (my
negative memories as a child and how sea is going at it with intrinsic
motivation and challenging herself)
--commenting on the
ideas of dependence and independence and my struggle with both...aching
at my daughter wanting me to spend more "mommy and sea" time each day,
not wanting to go to school, wanting me to stay at school, come back to
school "for snack...and lunch...and..."
--spring
cleaning...how much i've done...the little i have left to do and what i
need to do to overcome the blocks (mostly psychological and from
childhood) that stop me from completely de-cluttering, letting go,
moving on, organizing and keeping only the essentials (especially stored
items in our garage and paperwork)
--the perfect blue
skyed sunny and warm san diego day i have right now at my
disposal...slight breeze, literally birds chirping from overhead olive
branches that slowly wave, hummingbirds that hover ready to eat some
fresh nectar i brought them...inches from my face, trusting,
ready...small wind chimes lightly tinging and planes flying just low
enough overhead i can hear them and remember this from
childhood...memories of journeys being taken and yet to be taken and
those already past...i want to focus on these experiences, these
feelings, this warmth on my face...opportunities and the joys of the
present...but somehow my optimistic and idealistic self still catches
the waves of sadness at unexpected times like these...i was glancing at
these photos...collages of sea's life...and saw my dad in the "my
family" photo and i got irrationally irritated that there was a large
paperclip right over his face. now looking at the other collages i see
that the paperclips cover whatever they happen to cover and i know this
was not intentional but somehow it seems so unfair that he is gone and
can only be a part of the family she knows is important to me and her
history and not her actual experience...and i miss him and want him to
cheer me up and make life light and happy again and realize i need to do
these things for myself...so, i'm indulging myself in the wave of
sadness...briefly...in hopes of moving past it...and now i will glance
below at the rest of these photos and comment on...
sea's family shown here include our immediate family in the middle...mom, dad, sea and story, her cousins skye and ayva, auntie marci, my mom and her mimi, namenee and poppy, cousins meadow and roman, cousins chloe and ryder and my dad in the bright yellow shirt with the sparkly blue sea-colored eyes that match hers...he is holding her there just a few months old...
sea's hobbies include piano, playing with her doggy, playing at the beach, drawing and cleaning (? no idea where she got that idea except i have been on a mission to do this myself)...
her three wishes are to be a mermaid, fairy and/or princess (she was all three in the top left photo...halloween costume)...
for her friends i used a yearbook photo of all the children in her class and then her future husband elijah is on the top left with her brother story...she included brooke, hailey and ruhi as friends outside of her class...her dear beloved "goggin" is the over-loved white tiger missing and eye in the middle...
finally, her favorite things are her dog, cat, drawing, singing, swimming and the beach...she has her "pool" patch from passing the swim test and the marigold doll story brought her when he was first born...
this final photo was taken of sea on her field trip to the birch aquarium...she drew the mermaid on her shirt...i chose this photo to end this blog because there are waves out there yet to be ridden...i mean that literally and figuratively...we go to the beach as a family every weekend and the experience is so much a part of all of our lives...but on a more practical and immediate level for myself, i want to ride another wave...let this one carry me where it will...i'm ready to climb on the next one and appreciate this journey of motherhood...journey of life, really...because with the pain and sadness comes an appreciation of love, joy, and the possibilities for more...more importantly, i am so blessed right now, right here, where i am with my little son next to me, ready for me to play with him and my daughter eager to come home and spend "mommy and sea time"...
